Why Going Slow Is the Key to Lasting Spiritual Growth and Healing

The Early Rush: Eagerness and Ascension

When I first truly stepped onto the spiritual path—making my ascension journey my 24-hour focus—I was so eager. I wanted growth, transformation, and to rise to higher levels as fast as I could. Part of that urgency came from the discomfort in my life, and part of it came from pure excitement. I wanted to reconnect with the Divine, heal traumas completely, and reach a perfect balance within myself quickly.

So I did a lot. A lot of energy work. And what I learned, sometimes the hard way, is that rushing through these powerful shifts can fry your physical and nervous system. It brings a wave of challenges, difficulties, and discomfort all crashing in at once because you’re leaping from level to level without truly landing. Imagine riding an elevator where the doors open at each floor, but you don’t even step out to explore the new space—you’re already pressing the button to go higher. You miss the richness of the journey, the integration, and the beautiful lessons and beauty each level holds.

Slowing Down: Spiritual Maturity and Physical Health

Now, my main practice is to slow down. This isn’t just because of spiritual maturity—although that took a lot of work to cultivate—but also because my physical health demands it. I have health challenges that require me to prioritize rest, self-care, and a human pace. Most importantly, I’ve learned to enjoy the process and truly live where I am, not just rush toward some spiritual ideal or blissful state.

My son is my absolute priority. Then come my roles in service, as a practitioner and teacher, and yes, even my cats fit somewhere in that mix. Amidst all this, my health is a constant concern. When health is neglected, everything else suffers—even my ability to be present for my son. This is a very human lesson. You can do all the spiritual healing in the world, but if you don’t honour your body and human needs, nothing else will hold.

My Son: Greatest Teacher and Grounding Force

My son is my greatest teacher. He's my greatest love, my greatest ally, and my greatest joy. Every day he surprises me with his insights, and the things that come out of his mouth consistently blow me away. He’s exceptionally well-rounded, wise, grounded, and advanced, with a perspective that is balanced and morally strong—all without being “spiritual” in the traditional sense.

Being with him has brought me back down to earth in the most profound way. My role as a human is just as important as the spiritual mission I’m here to fulfill. The human responsibilities—parenting, caring for others, navigating daily life—are everything. If you want to be successful spiritually, you must also learn to be successful as a human. There’s no shortcut. Many spiritual approaches promote bypassing the human experience, but true growth always brings you back to earth.

This humbling return to the physical plane can feel frustrating, even like a form of punishment, but it’s actually support. Being consistently brought back to focus on the earthly experience is part of the guidance we are given to keep us aligned. Connecting with the Divine and Mother Earth is crucial, but knowing yourself, managing your life, and learning to succeed as a fully present human are equally vital. Balancing these aspects is challenging, but it’s where the real integration and growth happen.

Teaching Clients to Slow Down

I also bring this philosophy into my work with clients. Many arrive as eager as I once was—hungry, excited, ready to soar. I understand this deeply and meet that enthusiasm with compassion. But I am firm: slow is the way. The energy work I teach and use, especially during intense contraction times, requires patience. Rushing leads to overwhelm, burnout, and disconnect. If a client wants to speed up the process, I say no. It’s my responsibility to be a voice of reason, a steady hand, guiding them to move slowly and with integration.

Some practitioners might let clients move as fast as they want, but I believe that’s a disservice. The modalities I work with—Pellowah and Umana—are so powerful and life-changing that pacing is essential. I’m not alone in this; many experienced colleagues have also slowed down their approach. We’ve all witnessed the toll rushing takes on the body, mind, and spirit.

The Temptation to Do It All

When you’re just starting to awaken or emerging from a dark night of the soul, it’s normal to want to do everything. That insatiable thirst and excitement is valid and beautiful. But doing all modalities or tools at once creates a blur—you lose the ability to really feel and differentiate what each experience offers.

I’ve worked one-on-one with students over many months, guiding them slowly and purposefully through each modality. The difference is profound. They grow with clarity, embody each step fully, and emerge as radiant, integrated beings—not burned-out, scattered flames.

Joy vs. Addiction: Moving Through Hard Times

Turning spiritual growth into an addiction is a risk I’ve faced too. When you feel awful inside, it’s tempting to chase quick fixes—constantly seeking sessions or products to “feel better.” But the real growth comes from sitting in discomfort, accepting it, and moving through it with patience. The wait, the delay, is often part of the healing medicine itself.

If a practitioner offers an appointment a week from now, take that week. That time allows your body and energy to prepare and start the work before the session even happens. When you book an appointment, the energy of the session begins working with you immediately. As soon as you think about it, you’re already calling the energy in. Your body and field begin preparing for the shift even before the session begins.